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A Ten Minute Read
“It is better to risk starving to death then surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what’s left?” ~ Jim Carrey, Actor
#1-Find that Dream:
Deep inside of us all is a pesky annoying little dream which we dismiss on a daily basis. We dismiss it, because we think that it is just that, an annoying little dream. We don’t take it seriously. We think it is not worth much of anything. At some point, for some reason, that dream came to light in the back of our minds. But, the stigma surrounding the thought of a dream, kept it there.
Looking deep inside all of us there is something which is calling us or has already called and been answered. Maybe you are already chasing that dream. For many though, that dream will never be realized, because the person didn’t take the first step to even admitting they had a dream at all. Life gets busy. It becomes complicated by relationships, expectations, the need to make money and survive. We have these expectations and these boxes which confine us to a certain degree. We think we are limited by our options by an age and forget those dreams.
Instead, I want to encourage you to limitless. Don’t box yourself in. Don’t shake those dreams off to another day. Take some time to think about what you truly want from this life. What you are able to give back and where you would be the happiest. When you are at your best, the people around you will be the same. With a little searching, you can find your dream.
They are inside us all, whether we already have realized it or not. That’s the first step, if you haven’t already done so, do a little searching.
#2-Share that Dream:
After that pesky dream has been acknowledged, it is time to start sharing it. Whether that be annoying people online about said dream or telling random strangers. Sometimes, it is easiest to tell someone about these types of things who you have never met before. Some of the first people I told about my dream to cycle the world, were people I had only met for a few moments. It was a truly liberating feeling, expressing my ideas for the first time. It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I could breathe again. No one laughed at me, because it was clear I was sharing something important. When someone is genuine, we as humans usually take the time to listen. Whether any of these people truly thought I would follow through, I have no idea.
Once you feel you are truly ready to break the news with your inner circle, I recommend by sharing it with close family and friends. This is like pulling off a band aid over a patch of hair. Just come at it with all of your conviction and strength, knowing that it is the right thing to do. I assure you, the feeling will be much more gratifying when it is all over. You will feel a huge sigh of relief and your inner self with thank you for letting it all out. Don’t be hurt if everyone is not 100% on board at the beginning. You cannot expect them all to be. As long as they hear you and mildly understand what you are saying, that is half the battle.
After this, the ball will start rolling. Whether the people you love simply ignore your words, berate you, quietly listened or completely agree with your plan of action, you will have come through one of the highest hurdles. Sharing that dream is one of the hardest parts, trust me. This step is necessary, because by announcing it to many people, you are tied to your dream in many ways. If they heard you, they won’t forget what you said. They will remind you and hopefully help push your forward. It is important to share those dreams.
“The percentage you’re paying is too high priced,
While you’re living beyond all your means,
And the man in the suit has just bought a new car,
From the profit he’s made on your dreams.”
~ Steve Winwood, Musician/Songwriter
#3-Build that Dream:
Now that you have shared your dream with your little section of the world, it is time to build that dream. This is one of the most exciting parts. Working towards something that you would like to change in your life or a new path to follow. Honestly, a dream can be anything. It can be making a commitment to lose 50 pounds. Maybe you would like to completely switch career paths at the age of forty-five and go back to school. It could be getting out of an unhealthy relationship. Maybe it is coming to terms with your sexuality. Maybe you would just like to be a little more compassionate. Maybe you have always wanted to sky dive. Maybe you always wanted to travel Europe. All of these things take some sort of courage to start.
Whatever your dream, big or small, it takes a bit of time to build. Successful dreams, do not happen overnight. Professional athletes, musicians and artists, mostly did not arrive after one day of work. They too all had a dream and had to work towards something they believed in. Most people who follow a dream, especially if it is outside of their comfort zone, had to sacrifice. Sometimes they had to sacrifice a good many things. Whether that be time spent away from home, giving up a bit of comfort or investing hard earned savings into something you have truly believe in. The larger picture will become much more clear as you near that starting point.
Trust me, some of the hardest moments in my life were in the building stages of a dream. That waiting, that work, that not knowing if it is truly a good idea, or you will be successful at all can be difficult. But, a little belief and hard work go a long way during this transition period. Build that dream one day at a time.
#4-Start that Dream:
You can do all of the building you want, but you need to pull the trigger and make that change. Dreams are like losing a bunch of weight. It is not a one-day deal; it is a whole lifestyle change. Crash course diets do not work over time, because they are miserable and unsustainable. You’ll eventually give up, if you do not enjoy something. What you are looking for with a truly life altering dream is building yourself up to the point where it is a lifestyle change. It is a change in mindset and internal goal setting. It is strange to me that many of us give up weight loss plans that we hate, but not jobs or partners that we hate. I don’t really see the difference. If it bothers you that much, make a change.
We are all at different stages in our lives, so a person who is seventy may have completely different life goals and dreams, compared to someone that is twenty. For someone much older it may be going back to complete some unfinished business and for the twenty something, it may be taking that initial leap into the unknown. Whatever age you may be, I want to remind you that it is never too late to start. You are never too boxed in.
Throughout my travels around the world, I met some of the most inspiring people, doing amazing things. Some of them were living their dreams under the most difficult of circumstances. I could see the passion in their eyes. In many cases, the idea of age is only an idea, category and number you put yourself into. The idea that we are all classed equally by our biology is a mistake. From the people I have met, I can honestly tell you that you are never too old to make a change.
It all starts with a single day. Light that dream.
#5-Live that Dream:
Now, the most exciting part of the whole experience. Actually living the dream on a day-to-day basis. The waking up and knowing what you are about to do that day, is exactly what you would like to be doing or a path you would like to be headed down. You are firing on all cylinders, engaged and awake. You are not walking asleep through life, but living in the moment as it should be lived. You are losing the weight, you are entering new relationships, traveling Europe or even cycling the world.
All of these things started with a dream. A choice to make a change. We only get one life. There is only one of us. Why stay weighted under the prescribed notions of society when there is so much possibility out there? Throughout our years as citizens of the earth, we are influenced by a larger body of direction. A direction that keeps the wheels spinning, so to speak. We are conditioned by culture, media, religion and circumstance throughout our lives. However, I believe now more than ever, we are at a time in history where exploration, dream building and opportunity are more possible than ever. We have every chance and ability to access new sustainable horizons, if we do it in the appropriate way.
Living the dream is the best part. To embrace a new happiness with a plan to be the person we always knew we could be. To leave that comfort zone and try something new. To accept happiness and change. Dreams are forever. It is not one single act, but a new direction of thought. If you do not continually dream to make change in your world, your new vision will become stale. All choices have a meaning, as do all dreams and our present state. Always move forward. Look around you, educate yourself and read between the lines.
Living a dream is the culmination of years of neglect to our inner selves. It is like saying sorry and truly meaning it. The act of living that apology.
*If you are looking for more information on how to build you dream, take that trip you always wanted or hear a little bit more, please feel free to email me anytime at email@example.com
**You can check out my cycling video around the world for a bit more motivation below.
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