Years in the Making
The clock is ticking forward ever closer. Moving like a raging river through the days towards my initial departure, July 7th. Two months to go before I leave on my world cycling tour. It looms with great excitement, apprehension, joy and of course, sadness. Like any other time I have moved to a new stage of my life, these feelings and more have always poked their heads. But this time it is different. It is the biggest and boldest move I have made. The life I know now, will never be the same again. By taking this step I am giving up a lot, hoping to have it returned in different forms. Looking for that great adventure and personal challenge.
There was a time when I could not have imagined doing something like ‘Cycling Around the World’‘. My experiences, goals and dreams were localized, short-sighted and shallow. For a time, I was acting on behalf of others and not for myself. By coming to understand what I wanted to achieve in this life and then acting upon it, I have become a much happier person. Around the same time, a number of my other relationships also began to improve. I felt a greater connection with people and depth of conversation. I gave time to the people I wanted in my life and was much more open to welcoming new ones in.
There is a huge difference between doing things for self-fulfillment and self-satisfaction. By acting on something you know will make your life irreparably different, if not better, is not selfish. This is called following your dreams. This is your life, not someone else’s. If there are people who are holding you back from doing what you truly want to do with your life, are they doing it with your best interests in mind or theirs? These are things to ask yourself as you hit certain plateaus in your life. As life moves onwards, there come big decisions, such as career choices, marriage, moving cities, buying a home, having kids, settling down or none of the above.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie (An amazing thinker and author)
With the pressures that surround people at culturally prescribed time periods, it is not often hard to feel down if you haven’t achieved certain benchmarks or ticked off all the neat little boxes of life by a relative age. Never be hard on yourself for not living up to another person’s expectations or dreams. The only person who needs satisfying, first and foremost, is you. If you are content, then everything else will fall into place over time. By working on your own development, new goals can be achieved.
People are attracted to positive, driven and energetic people. Make a month long plan to start. Make the goals achievable so it feels good. Then, go bigger, more ambitious. One year, five years, ten years and so on. Make them goals that you can control. Ones that you think will make YOU happy. You can’t just say I’ll be married by 30, because you can’t control that. For sure it can be a goal, but don’t give yourself a timeline, or expect stress and disappointment.
Remember, if your goals are materialistic, your happiness will be superficial in the end. Go for something more. Look deep and think. Someone without goals, however small, limits themselves and those they keep with them to predictable ends and expected outcomes. The moment is now to follow your passions.
“The more intensely we feel about an idea or a goal, the more assuredly the idea, buried deep in our subconscious, will direct us along the path to its fulfillment.” ~ Earl Nightingale
A few years ago I made a plan. One of those goals, among many, was to ride a bicycle around the world. In two months, I will begin that dream. I do it for that dream, for the beautiful places, for the hard times, for Charity, but most of all, for myself. It feels fantastic to finally have my goal right there in front of me. Work towards something and then follow through. Be patient. But when it comes, be ready to accept what you have worked so hard for.
Posted on May 7, 2014, in Adventure, Around the World, Charity, Cycling, Inspiration, Motivation, Thoughts, Travel and tagged China, Countdown, Cycling, Dreams, Excitement, fear, Goals, Inspiration, Motivations, Thoughts. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.